2.27.2008

The Opposite of Love: A Novel




By Julie Buxbaum

Emily Haxby has a feeling that her boyfriend is going to propose to her. Andrew is a catch – attractive, smart, funny, a doctor- and they truly love each other, so she dumps him immediately. Her friends don’t get it and as one person tells her, “It’s like you get pleasure out of breaking your own heart.”
Beneath the tough exterior of this twenty-nine year old successful Manhattan attorney, lies a very damaged person. Emily knows that eventually Andrew will leave her, so she has to leave him first, no matter how miserable it makes her. But without Andrew in her life, Emily is left with the opposite of love- - emptiness.
The Opposite of Love is the story of how Emily finds the courage to face her deepest fears and take control of her life. Buxbaum’s debut is well written, funny, and insightful, with well drawn characters and a satisfying conclusion. Highly recommended.

2.20.2008

Becoming Jane: The Wit and Wisdom of Jane Austen




Edited by Anne Newgarden

More than two centuries ago, Jane Austen, a clergyman’s daughter in Hampshire, England, wrote six major novels, beginning with the classic Pride and Prejudice. Despite the fact that she lived just 41 years and never married or left England, Ms. Austen wrote about the relationships between men and women in a way that still resonates many decades later. Although she didn’t make much money from them at the time, today her novels have been translated into more than thirty languages, adapted into movies, sequels, plays, ballets, (and more!), and have never been out of print.
Almost two hundred years later, Jane Austen is more popular than ever.

In addition to being a huge fan of Austen’s work, I’m also intrigued by the story of her life, which was recently dramatized in the film Becoming Jane (starring a likeable Anne Hathaway and a dapper James McAvoy, pictured on the cover.) In a time when women were not supposed to think for themselves, Jane Austen had the courage to put her thoughts on paper. In a time when women were not supposed to think of money, Jane Austen was earning money, no matter how small the amount, on her own. In a time when most women had to marry for financial reasons instead of love, Jane Austen refused to mindlessly follow the rules of society. She was determined to either marry for love or live by her pen. She was afraid the demands of a traditional family life would deter her dream of becoming a great writer, a dream that would only be fully realized many years after her death.
This slim book is a collection of quotations from her novels and letters. It also contains a bit of biographical information, just enough to give the reader a sense of what Ms. Austen’s life was like, without being scholarly or overwhelming.
The editor seems to have a genuine appreciation for Austen’s work and writes, “Austen’s men and women – ball gowns, bonnets and breeches aside- are not so very different from men and women today. While they face completely different obstacles in their pursuit of marital happiness, Austen’s favorite subject, their feelings and failings, their vices and vulnerabilities provoke in modern-day readers (or viewers, as the case may be) a nod of recognition.”
She calls Austen a “master of human observation,” adding, “And what do we human creatures love more than to hold a mirror up to ourselves? Reveling in the first blush of love or mourning its loss – remembering who we once were or impatient for who we hope to become – we turn to our own reflection for knowledge, for solace, for pity, for hope, or for the sheer pleasure it gives us. It’s no wonder we keep coming back to Jane Austen over and over again.”
Recommended for Austen fans.

2.19.2008

The Senator's Wife: A Novel




By Sue Miller

A portrait of two marriages, one just beginning and the other approaching its end. Meri and Nathan have recently married and are moving into one half of a large, two family home in New England. The other side of the house belongs to the much older Delia and her husband, Tom, a former US senator. Ms. Miller offers a look at both marriages, seemingly at opposite points, yet in some ways, strikingly parallel. As Meri gives birth to her first child and confronts the complexities of motherhood, Delia brings debilitated Tom home for the first time in decades to convalesce after a stroke.
I consider myself a big fan of Sue Miller’s writing, especially The Good Mother and While I Was Gone. The Senator's Wife has been the recepient of much critical praise, but the reviews on Amazon.com are somewhat lukewarm. I have to agree with many of the Amazon readers, who felt this novel was well written, but brought nothing really new to the table.

2.12.2008

The Audacity of Hope: Thoughts on Reclaining the American Dream




By Barack Obama

I normally find politics completely uninteresting, but as we approached 2008 and people started talking about the upcoming Presidential Election, I really looked forward to voting for Hilary Clinton. I seriously never thought I’d see a viable female presidential candidate in my lifetime, so this was extremely exciting for me. I’d always voted for Bill Clinton, so Hilary would undoubtedly win my vote this year.
Then, I watched a few debates on television, both Democratic and Republican (just for kicks!), and something unexpected began to happen. I actually found the debates interesting! Especially some guy named Barack Obama.

But wait a minute, I hate politics!
Politicians are all a bunch of liars!
I would never donate money to a politician.
What a waste!
And I would never cast a vote against Hilary!

But Senator Obama changed my mind about all of these things. He is inspiring, charismatic and incredibly intelligent. Come to think of it, he is the exact opposite of our current president. The Audacity of Hope is an inside look at Washington that is both smart and interesting. The idea that Mr. Obama could someday lead our country fills this beaten down liberal with hope. I know that he has to beat Hilary in the primaries first, but I would really like to see Obama’s name on the ballot in November. America needs him and you need to read this book!


All this talk about hope reminded me of a beautiful poem written by Emily Dickinson:

Hope is the thing with feathers
That perches in the soul,
And sings the tune without the words,
And never stops at all,

And sweetest in the gale is heard;
And sore must be the storm
That could abash the little bird
That kept so many warm.

I've heard it in the chilliest land
And on the strangest sea;
Yet, never, in extremity,
It asked a crumb of me

2.11.2008

Waiting to Surface




By Emily Listfield

Sarah and Todd once shared the perfect romance. Young and carefree, Todd was a promising artist and Sarah, a talented writer. Ten years of marriage and one daughter later, their relationship is in shambles and divorce seems imminent. Then one day, Todd simply vanishes while visiting an old girlfriend in Florida. Police aren’t sure if he has commit suicide by drowning himself or if he simply walked away from his life. The one thing Sarah knows is that Todd would never desert his daughter, so she suspects foul play. But it turns out that there are many things that Sarah did not know about her husband. A real page turner with interesting characters and exciting plot twists.

2.04.2008

Manless in Montclair




How a Happily Married Woman Became a Widow Looking for Love in the Wilds of Suburbia (A Novel)

by Amy Holman Edelman

Isabel is stunned when she returns home from a dentist appointment to find her husband Michael dead from a brain hemorrhage. After a few sad months of grieving, she begins to consider re-entering the world of dating, something she never imagined in her wildest dreams, but her friends are encouraging her and her youngest daughter has requested a new daddy for Hannukah.
Dating is alot different today than it was fifteen years ago with internet services like JDate and match.com, but one thing hasn't changed: how hard it is to meet the right person, especially when you're living in the suburbs of New Jersey. Luckilly, between juggling her new roles as family breadwinner and single mom, Isabel has time to go on tons of dates and hang out with her upstairs neighbor, an unemployed musician/commitmentphobe, whom she refers to as her "friend with benefits".
Frustrated by bad dates with losers and good dates with men who blow her off, Isabel sends an email to her friends offering a free trip anywhere in the world for the person who finds her a husband. Although her desperate email lands her a story on page 3 of the New York Post, Isabel still can't find the right guy, so she reluctantly takes a break from dating, learning to appreciate all the good things in her life and realizing that some things just cannot be rushed. This is a quick, light read but the middle of the book (and Isabel's dating desperation) became tiresome and a bit dull for me. This one was just okay.